Addressing Guilt and Shame in Therapy for ADHD
ADHD (attention-deficit/hyperactivity disorder) is a diagnosis that carries so much stigma and is commonly misunderstood. For ADHDers,* the symptoms go beyond concerns with attention or focus. ADHD impacts mood, relationships, decision-making, daily functioning, and overall satisfaction with life. As an ADHD therapist, when someone starts neurodivergent therapy, a large part of our work addresses the weight of the stigma and often a deep feeling of guilt or shame.
Whether someone has been diagnosed with ADHD in childhood or as an adult, they have often experienced negative messages that they have come to believe as the truth about who they are as a person. These internalized messages can be debilitating and impact daily life, as well as the ability to overcome future challenges. At our Georgia therapy practice, addressing guilt and shame starts with a focus on the individual’s unique traits. These can include their talents, interests, and abilities. Our therapeutic approach empowers ADHDers to put energy into what is most meaningful and fulfilling to them.
(*I use the term “ADHDer” in this article as a commonly-preferred term by individuals with ADHD. However, in therapy, I ask each person’s preference and use their preferred term.)
Strengths-Based ADHD Therapy
As an ADHD therapist in Atlanta, GA, I work from a strengths-based approach. I view ADHD as part of a wide range of neurotypes. Therefore, I don’t see ADHD as something to be “treated.” Therapy for ADHD addresses whatever the ADHDer reports as a stressor. These stressors are usually a result of trying to use and manage systems not created for or supportive of neurodiversity.
Identity
What does ADHD mean for your identity? How has your view of yourself and your life experiences changed since your neurodivergence diagnosis? Gaining greater insight into your identity can address feelings of shame. It can also help you lean into the amazing qualities that you have. You might not be aware of all the strategies you have been using. Exploring identity can help you be more intentional about using the skills and resources you already possess.
Values, roles, and expectations
Understanding what is most important to you, the multiple roles you hold, and the beliefs of what is expected of you can help identify challenges and stressors. Discussions in these areas can clarify where pressures are coming from. For example, they may be societal or coming from family or your own expectations. Clarification can give insight into what is within your control. This empowers you to divert your energy to what matters most to you.
Self-validation
Whether you’ve had an ADHD diagnosis since childhood or are an adult processing a recent diagnosis, you probably have had your experiences or feelings invalidated. Self-validation is important in being gentle with yourself. And reminding yourself that whatever you are feeling is real and you have a right to feel it.
Self-validation is a powerful tool in addressing shame and overcoming negative messages. It allows you to begin unburdening yourself of the weight you’ve carried from existing in a world that is often lacking understanding of neurodiversity. A part of self-validation is listening to your internal experience. Then, use it as a guide to living authentically in a way that is meaningful to you.
Start Therapy for ADHD in Atlanta, GA
If you have ADHD and are struggling with guilt and shame, seeking neurodivergent therapy from an ADHD therapist who works from a strength-based approach can empower you to optimize your talents and abilities. At Informed Therapy Group, we have experienced and understanding therapists who will honor who you are and support you in your progress towards your most fulfilling life. Here’s how you can get started with ADHD therapy:
- Request an appointment through our contact page.
- Meet with an experienced ADHD therapist in Atlanta, GA.
- Discover strategies that help you embrace your authentic self.
Other Services Informed Therapy Group Offers in Georgia
Our compassionate therapists at Informed Therapy Group take a multifaceted approach to mental health. In addition to neurodivergent therapy in Atlanta, GA, we offer anxiety therapy, depression therapy, grief and loss counseling, and therapy for stress management. We also specialize in couples counseling, pregnancy counseling, and postpartum therapy. Explore our About Us page, visit our blog, or read our FAQs to learn more about how we can help you. When you’re ready to reach out, we encourage you to call (404) 444-8974 or email us at admin@informedtherapy.com.
About the Author
Melissa Light, LPC, NCC, PMH-C, is a licensed professional counselor and nationally certified clinician with over a decade of experience supporting individuals in their emotional growth. Specializing in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) and Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), Melissa offers a compassionate, evidence-based approach that creates a space for clients to connect with themselves and feel more present in their lives as they navigate transitions, emotions, and personal growth. Her specialty areas include Perinatal Mental Health and autistic or ADHD adults. Known for creating a warm, welcoming space, Melissa empowers clients to explore their stories at their own pace. Outside of her practice, she enjoys the chaos and joy of family life with her husband, two children, and labradoodle, Fozzie. She can often be found hiking, baking, or painting with watercolors— embracing creativity and the beauty of imperfection.
