Taming the Opinionated Family During Postpartum: Tips from a Postpartum Therapist in Atlanta, GA

Ah, family. We love them but they can also drive us crazy during the first few months of motherhood. The constant stream of well-meaning (but sometimes unsolicited) advice from parents, in-laws, and well, everyone with an opinion.

The Sensitivity of the Postpartum Phase

Here’s the thing: Postpartum is a sensitive time. You’re recovering physically and emotionally, figuring out motherhood on the fly, and sleep is a distant memory. While you are trying to cope with all the new tasks related to motherhood, you are also dealing with the emotional turmoil of finding yourself in this stage of life. You are questioning your decisions, experiencing doubt, and looking for the signs that you are getting it “right” only to have your baby hit a new milestone. The last thing you need is someone telling you, “You’re doing it wrong” or giving you a million other options on what to do in each moment.

Tips on Navigating Your Family During Postpartum

So, how do you navigate these sometimes overzealous family members? Here are some tips from a postpartum therapist and mom to three kids:

1. Set Boundaries with Love (and maybe a little firmness): It’s okay to say “no” to visitors, unsolicited advice, or helping hands that come with strings attached. Respectful communication is key here. Phrases like, “I appreciate the offer to hold the baby, but right now I just need some quiet time to nap,” work well. You can also be upfront about needing some “me-time” or explain that you have a different approach in mind. The key is to be clear, yet kind. If someone persistently pushes your boundaries, you might need to use the Broken Record Technique (see #2) or a more direct approach, like, “I understand you want to help, but I’ve got this handled.” Remember, healthy relationships allow for your needs to be heard and respected.
2. The Broken Record Technique: This one’s a lifesaver. When faced with a barrage of unwanted advice, politely repeat a pre-determined phrase like, “Thanks, I’ll keep that in mind” or “We’re doing well, thanks for checking in.” Don’t get bogged down in justifying your decisions or explaining yourself further. Each time the advice pops up again, simply use your chosen phrase in a friendly but firm tone. This persistent, yet calm, approach gently redirects the conversation back to your desired course of action. It shows appreciation for the other person’s concern while politely setting a boundary.
3. Recruit an Ally: Partner up with your significant other or a trusted friend. They can be your buffer, fielding unwanted advice and gently reminding family members to respect your boundaries. When we sit down with our partner or trusted friend to talk about setting boundaries, we can get lost in venting. While some venting can be helpful to make sense of your feelings, try to focus on what you are needing versus not liking about others. This can help us define our boundaries more clearly and help your ally understand your needs.
4. Remember, You’re the Captain Now: It’s your baby, your journey. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your little one. Motherhood is a mix of trying new ways to navigate challenges and doing what works in the moment. It is important for you to determine what is working based on your needs, your baby’s needs, and the needs of the family. For instance, you may be trying to help the baby fall asleep independently and without being rocked. You keep trying but it isn’t going well. You find yourself overwhelmed and overstimulated and the baby is screaming. This is a moment where you can decide to hang in there and help soothe while the baby is lying down independently. Or you can say “screw it” and pick your baby up. You get to decide. There is no right or wrong at any given moment. You can always try these skills at another time. Family may try to tell what they think is right or wrong, but they are not there every day, all day. You are! 

Bonus Tip: If things get overwhelming, consider a family therapy session. A therapist can facilitate communication, help everyone understand your needs, and create a more supportive environment.

You Are Not Alone

Remember, you’re not alone. Lean on your partner, and friends, and even consider postpartum therapy to navigate this special time. You deserve to feel supported and empowered, not overwhelmed by opinions. Now go forth and conquer motherhood, your way!

Feeling overwhelmed by opinionated family members and longing for a space to prioritize your well-being? Informed Therapy Group is here for you! We have a team of compassionate therapists specializing in postpartum support, ready to help you navigate this stage with confidence. Book a session today on our website or call us at 404-444-8974 to take the first step towards a calmer, more supported you.

Find Support Navigating Family Postpartum With Postpartum Therapy in Atlanta, GA

Navigating the postpartum phase can be overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. Our specialized postpartum therapy offers compassionate support to help you manage family dynamics and address any postpartum concerns. Take the first step towards a healthier, more balanced life for you and your family with the help of Informed Therapy Group. Follow these three simple steps to get started:

1. Contact us today to learn more about our services
2. Meet with a caring postpartum therapist
3. Find support in navigating postpartum life.

Other Services Offered with Informed Therapy

At Informed Therapy Group, we know you may be struggling with more than one mental health concern. So, in addition to providing you with support in navigating postpartum with postpartum therapy, we are also happy to offer therapy for depression, therapy for stress management, and anxiety therapy. We also offer therapy for grief and loss, couples therapy, and pregnancy counseling. To learn more about Informed Therapy read About Us, FAQs, and our blog!