Navigating Newborn Sleep: Tips to Manage Your Anxiety from a Postpartum Therapist
As I work with new moms in postpartum therapy and listen to their fears, I see firsthand what brings up the most anxiety early on in motherhood. While the top stressors include feeding, weight, sleep, and safety, I will be focusing on anxiety regarding our baby’s sleep. As well as the fear that you will get it wrong as a new mom.
The Pressure of Perfect Sleep: A Personal Experience
I personally experienced this as a new mom. I remember hearing all the sleep training methods and I was determined not to “fail” at getting my child to be a good sleeper. My brain was constantly keeping track of time, the amount my child slept each nap, and I was constantly trying to figure out what I needed to do next. It was too much! I was exhausted and overstimulated. I recall going to my pediatrician and her reassuring me that you can’t mess it up during those early months.
She stated, “Just love your baby and you have time to figure it out.” I remember the weight being lifted from me and my brain starting to relax. As a new mom, I needed someone to help me tune out the noise and remind me that I had time to understand my baby’s sleep needs and what would work for us as a family. I needed someone to remind me that my baby’s sleep was not a direct reflection of my ability to mother my child. I needed to know that I was also in a transition and that a baby’s sleep can be a crazy journey early on in motherhood.
Tips for Coping with Newborn Sleep Anxiety
I am writing this blog to hopefully send the same support to all the mothers who are in the thick of the newborn stage right now. I am sharing these tips as both a mother and a postpartum therapist. So, keep reading and I hope to share that same support with you.
Embrace Your Newborn Baby’s Unique Sleep Needs
It’s crucial to understand that every baby is unique. What works for one baby might not work for another. This individuality can be both liberating and daunting. Instead of comparing your baby’s sleep patterns to those of other infants, focus on understanding your baby’s specific needs and rhythms. By tuning into your baby’s cues, you can begin to establish a routine that works for both of you.
I know this can be hard with social media and all the moms shouting from the rooftops when they have babies who sleep through the night quickly. Remember, most moms find newborn sleep challenging. You are not the only one navigating the ups and downs with your newborn. They are just trying to survive so they aren’t shouting from any rooftops.
Be Patient and Flexible
A common misconception is that if you don’t establish perfect sleep habits from day one, you’re doomed to a lifetime of sleep deprivation. This simply isn’t true. Babies go through developmental stages that impact their sleep. What works today might not work in a few months. Be patient with yourself and your baby as you both adjust to this new world. Remember, you will have multiple opportunities during the first year to adjust or make changes if something is no longer working or you want to improve the sleep routine.
Creating a Calming Bedtime Routine
Many moms find it helpful to start early on with establishing a calming bedtime routine. No, I am not talking about the intense pressure for your baby to fall asleep on their own or fall asleep easily. I am referencing the fun stuff such as finding a cozy spot in the nursery to sit with your baby before bedtime, establishing a bath routine, and ways to comfort your child to sleep. Some babies transfer easily to laying down and others will fight it harder. Again, give yourself time to know your baby. Does your baby needs a little more support before laying them down, that is okay. This is the time to get to know your baby and pay attention to what works. Start with simple steps and don’t take on the pressure for your child to find a perfect sleep schedule.
Trust Your Instincts
One of the biggest challenges is managing the constant influx of advice and opinions. Well-meaning friends, family, and even strangers may offer unsolicited sleep tips. It’s important to trust your instincts and do what feels right for you and your baby. Remember, you’re the expert on your child. If you are truly overwhelmed and want support, I recommend finding a sleep consultant who can come in and offer personalized support to you and your baby. This can be one way to get support without all the advice, judgment, or intense pressure. You can interview them and make sure you find someone who fits with your personality and sleep goals.
Find Time For Self-Care
Self-care is often overlooked amidst the demands of motherhood. Taking time for yourself, even if it’s just a short break, can significantly impact your mood and ability to cope with sleep challenges. For moms struggling with newborn sleep, pay attention to when you feel stressed in your body. Is this right before putting your child to sleep? Is it while your baby is asleep, and you are worried about them waking up? Use these cues to establish self-care activities. For instance, if you are anxious while your baby is asleep, find a good show to watch or catch up with a friend. Do what helps your body and mind feel calmer. Remember, a rested and relaxed mom is better equipped to handle the ups and downs of newborn life.
Seeking Professional Support: How a Postpartum Therapist Can Help You Navigate Newborn Sleep Anxiety
If anxiety about your baby’s sleep is overwhelming, don’t hesitate to seek support from a postpartum therapist. A therapist can help you understand the root causes of your sleep-related anxiety, develop effective coping mechanisms, and build resilience. By providing a safe space to discuss your concerns, therapists can help you understand your thought patterns and develop healthier perspectives on sleep. Additionally, they can offer practical strategies for tuning out the noise. Thus, helping you feel more confident and present during motherhood.
If you are a new mom in Georgia or a PSYPACT participating state and are struggling with postpartum anxiety or concerns about your baby’s sleep, please reach out to the postpartum therapists at Informed Therapy Group. We offer specialized support and guidance to help you navigate this challenging time. Click here to book a free consultation and get started today.
Remember, you’re not alone in this journey. With support and understanding, you can find peace and balance as you and your baby navigate the world of sleep.
Navigate Newborn Sleep Anxiety With Postpartum Therapy in Atlanta, GA
Feeling overwhelmed by your newborn’s sleep patterns? At Informed Therapy Group you can find the support you need to navigate newborn sleep anxiety with the help of a postpartum therapist. In postpartum therapy, you can gain personalized support and strategies tailored to your needs. Start your journey to peace and balance and let us help you navigate this challenging time with confidence. Follow these three simple steps to get started:
- Contact us to schedule an appointment
- Meet with a caring postpartum therapist
- Begin navigating newborn sleep anxiety in positive ways!
Other Services Offered with Informed Therapy
At Informed Therapy Group, we know you may be struggling with more than one mental health concern. So, in addition to providing you with support for newborn sleep in postpartum therapy, we are also happy to offer therapy for depression, therapy for stress management, and anxiety therapy. We also offer therapy for grief and loss, couples therapy, and pregnancy counseling. To learn more about Informed Therapy read About Us, FAQs, and our blog!
